Talk to your dog

Your dogs’ ears are better than yours. Also (probably) cuter. And softer. They work great. Use them. Talk to your dog!

This week for the first time since the pandemic shut down our dog training club, we held classes. It started out really, really quiet. We think it may have been that people were embarrassed to talk to their dogs in public. After a year and a half of talking only to their dogs, they may have thought that it wasn’t okay in public.

Always talk to your dog

Aside from the fact that dogs can understand hundreds of words if we bother to teach them, it’s only polite to let the other person in the room know what’s going on. 

The most egregious offenses in class were people, given the “Forward!” command by the instructor (Hope), took off without saying anything to their dogs! In most cases, they didn’t even “check in” to make sure their dogs were paying attention!

We know that most people just want their dogs to exhibit good manners when walking. Competition obedience isn’t on everyone’s radar. That’s perfectly fine. But you still need to let your dog know when you’re starting, turning, stopping, or changing speeds! If you were walking with a human friend, and you’re the one who knows where you’re going, don’t you routinely say “we turn here” or “it’s just ahead on the right”?

And it’s important to let your dog know that they’re doing a good job. Praise is one way to reward your dog – so speak up!

Letting dogs know what’s up

The sins were just as numerous on the flip side of the coin. We were appalled to see how many leashes got tight and dogs were dragged around by their necks rather than being given a chance to think and react. 

Especially the first time doing something, or just learning something, or coming back after a long time away, dogs need time to process what’s being asked of them. If your dog hasn’t heard “Sit!” in a while, it may take a moment to sift through the brain cells and figure out what you’re talking about. Give your dog a chance to “answer” when you talk to your dog.

Everybody does it

It was interesting to see that almost everyone in class was exhibiting the same bad behavior, hauling on their dogs without talking to them first. Both the owners of the German Shepherd and the Chinese Crested – the long and short of our class.

If you’re training in class, it’s understandable to be a little shy about babbling excitedly to your dog. It took a long time before we were able to get over it. It helped to realize that absolutely no one in the class is paying any attention to you – they’re all occupied with their own dogs. And any spectators will be too busy watching the dogs to listen to a word anybody says.

Use your happy voice

Talk to your dog - he'll look at you and you'll have a happy working dog.

By all means practice talking to your dog in your 2-Minute dog training games at home. Prove to yourself how well it works. Try one session being quiet, and when you do speak, do it either harshly or in a monotone. Then, later the same day, try playing exactly the same game, but talking happily and excitedly to your dog throughout. 

We guarantee your dog will do better and learn more in the second session. We play dog training games for many reasons. One of the most important ones is having fun with our dogs. And they love the sound of our voices.

So much dog training, so little time

Feeling overwhelmed by all there is to teach your dog? There’s so much dog training to do! Especially if you have a puppy or a newly-adopted dog. There’s just so much! From the daily routine, to potty-training, to leash walking, to jumping, barking, etc. The list goes on and on.

You don’t need to “fix” everything all at once. There’s no schedule, or deadline. Your relationship with your dog, your partnership, will grow over time and whatever issues you have will melt away as your dog’s understanding grows and strengthens.

Pick just one thing

Another consideration is how very tired you are with a new dog in the house. A new addition sucks up a lot of time and energy – without accomplishing much of anything. Or having much fun. We understand. You’re not alone.

And that’s why it’s vital to carve out those two minutes to have fun with your dog. Everyone can find two minutes to play! It doesn’t have to be the same time every day. Or the same place. 

All you have to do is decide. Play a dog training game around the last thing your dog did that was annoying. Or naughty. Or wonderful! You can also play games to reinforce good behavior.

It gets done – one little bit at a time

We come from a long and not-so-proud heritage of pack-rat personalities. We never reached hoarder status, but there was too much stuff. To turn things around, we just decided to do it. It’s probably the origin of 2-Minute-Trainer. Because we grabbed a timer, set it for 15 minutes, and tackled whatever mess was in front of us.

You can decide to play training games with your dog, too. You won’t “fix” everything in a day. It takes time. And the progress is incremental. But one day you’ll look around and realize – we did it! Our home was tidy! And you’ll look around one day, sooner than you think, and realize you have the world’s best dog!

So much dog training to do, but start with one annoying behavior at a time.

Don’t even try for big chunks. Nibble away! If there’s a specific behavior you want to change, picture the change and parse it into the smallest possible steps. Work one step at a time, and soon they’ll all be done. Remember the Lao Tzu proverb: The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step. 

So much dog training

All dog training, even little Puppy Push-ups games, address the three things we all want: better manners, increased trust, and expanded confidence in our dogs. When you have no ideas for today’s game, fall back on something your dog already knows and loves. 

If you want to change it up, do it in a different room. Or outside. Just know that every single 2-Minute Training session you spend with your dog will have lasting effects. The relationship between you and your dog will grow geometrically as you play dog training games.

Dog decision making – help your dog choose wisely

Dogs, like people, are always making decisions. Which toy should I play with? Is this the best chewy toy in the house? Which bush should I pee on? She called me – should I “come?” The crux of positive reinforcement training is guiding dog decision making. Building the understanding that what you want, and what your dog wants, are the same thing.

We’ve talked before about dogs not caring about being “good.” They don’t even know what it is. Dogs will always do the “thing” that’s most valuable to them. It’s our job to build value in good decisions.

For example:

Fran’s 2-year-old Boston Terrier Simon doesn’t always love Hope’s 6-year-old French Bulldog Torque. For unknown reasons, he just rubs him the wrong way sometimes. 

We watch the interactions between the two very carefully. During supervised play times, Simon wears a leash that Fran hangs onto. It’s not to drag him back, it’s to prevent contact. Torque will try and get away when Simon loses his temper. The leash is to make sure Simon doesn’t follow. 

When Simon’s body language tells us that he might be taking umbrage, Fran calls him to her. She’s been doing this consistently. Last night we were delighted to see him make a wonderful decision. Simon was losing his cool, his hackles started to raise, he was staring at Torque. We saw it and Fran started calling Simon in a happy voice – one that he knows always results in rewards. 

He thought about it. You could see him pause. And then he ran over to Fran, away from Torque, and was completely and thoroughly praised and rewarded.

Make it worthwhile

Simon is always rewarded for making good decisions.

Would Simon have made the same, good decision, if it didn’t “pay?” He could very well have gotten supreme satisfaction from going after the other dog. He didn’t because he knew that Fran would praise him, play with him, and give him treats for going to her. It was more rewarding to Simon to be doted on. Good dog decision making, Simon!

That’s why you never call your dog to you for something he/she doesn’t like. If your dog hates getting a bath, go and get him/her. Don’t try to fool your dog, either. Don’t call him/her into the bathroom, give a treat, and then shove him/her in the tub. Not fair. 

Never too late for training good dog decision making

Positive reinforcement, and 2-Minute-Trainer training games, are all about guiding our dogs into making the best choices. Being a “good dog” may not be something dogs understand. Getting rewarded is speaking their language. Dogs will repeat behavior that’s rewarded. They’re smart enough to discard what doesn’t work for them.

Your attention, treats, and play are all rewards your dog will try to get. When you witness your dog making a good decision, be sure he/she is lavishly rewarded. You can’t “spoil” your dog with praise, treats, or playtime. 

There’s no such thing as too much praise for good behavior. If you slack off, or let good dog decision making go unnoticed, you’ll lose it. Dogs are wonderful, adaptable creatures. They’re also in the “what have you done for me lately” camp. If something that used to get rewarded no longer does, they’ll stop doing it.

How to get your dog to calm down and relax

It’s the very first thing we “work” on with puppies – get your dog to calm down. Just like human children, puppies don’t really know when they’re over-tired. They’ll fight taking a nap, just like a toddler. You can watch their eyelids droop, but they just won’t relax. As they get more and more tired, puppies can get increasingly frantic. And your frustration grows. The dog needs to nap. And you need to grab a shower and a meal!

Puppies are little tyrants. If you allow it, they’ll take over every aspect of your life and schedule. They’re selfish little beasts, only caring about their own needs and wants. 

Frankly, if puppies weren’t so adorable your heart melts, there’d be no excuse for them.

Start with the basics

“Sit and accept praise” is one of the very first behaviors we teach with a new dog or puppy in the house. When the new addition gets you up at four in the morning and, after a potty break, decides it’s play time, you need a way of letting him/her know that’s not the way it’s going to be. 

Many trainers would have you stuff the puppy in the crate, maybe even cover it, and wrap a pillow over your head to muffle the complaints. The ear-piercing, howling misery. 

But we’re not believers in letting a dog or puppy cry itself into exhaustion. The dog doesn’t learn anything from that. Even at four in the morning, it’s time for a session of “Sit And Accept Praise.”

Not the most fun training game

Our very first dog training mentor preached this exercise, even before positive reinforcement was a “thing” in dog training. He is a good and wise man. 

This is probably the only 2-Minute-Trainer game that’s not really much fun for either of you at first. But it is part of the deal we make with our dogs. They get what they want when we get what we want. It’s a simple bargain, but an important one.

How Sit & Accept Praise works

Sit & Accept Praise is easy. With your dog wearing a collar, have him sit next to you. On the couch if it’s allowed. You get on the floor if it’s not. (As an aside: we don’t understand why people have upholstered furniture their dogs aren’t allowed to get on. But we think dogs are more valuable than any “stuff.”) (By the way – we also outline Sit & Accept Praise in our Puppy Basics. If you missed that, it’s no big deal, but you might want to get the free download for more great information.)

Sit and accept praise is the best way to get your dog to calm down.

Your dog may not want to sit next to you. That’s why he/she is wearing a collar. With your arm and elbow holding the dog at your side, thread a couple of fingers through the dog’s collar. Make sure your position is comfortable and that, if the dog fusses and moves, your fingers won’t bend awkwardly. The game may not be the most fun, but it also shouldn’t  hurt either one of you.. 

Then sit there, petting the dog with the other hand and speaking softly to him/her. Let your dog know that he’s a wonderful dog, and a good dog, and the handsomest dog in the world. If you’re a reader, read your book out loud. Just so your dog hears your voice being calm and gentle. 

That’s pretty much it. It’s easy to get your dog to calm down with this technique.

Dog’s not having it

When you feel the dog start to relax, you can ease the tension in the arm holding the dog at your side. Keep talking and petting. An occasional treat is fine, too. As long as the dog doesn’t get too excited by it. 

If, when you lessen the hold, your dog struggles, just go back to where you were. In time, your dog will learn that you mean it, it’s time to relax.

It may take more than one repetition for the message to get through. When your dog does relax, even lie down, give him/her a cue word that identifies the action. We use “relax,” so when our dogs’ tension eases, “good relax,” “nice relax, buddy,” “what a good relax.” That way, throughout the dog’s life, we can tell him to “Relax” and he knows what to do.

Dogs don’t judge

Afraid of doing it wrong? You don’t have to be. Dogs don’t judge. 

Some people are reluctant to try new things. Especially if they’re in a public place, or if they’re being watched. We see it in our dog training classes all the time. We have to encourage people to be louder, more active, keep trying, talk to their dogs, etc. Because we’re all afraid of being judged.

Dogs don’t judge

One of the best, and most fun, things about 2-Minute dog games is that there’s never a buzzer or anyone yelling “wrong!” You can play and adapt every game to where you and your dog are right at that moment. And dogs don’t shut down or quit – they’re encouraged to keep trying.

“Try again!” is a phrase that makes our dogs wiggle their butts – it means they get to keep playing. That particular attempt may not have been rewarded, but they get to keep playing and discover what does get the cookie.

You can’t “break” your dog

Positive reinforcement training will never “break” your dog. We have seen dog victims of harsh methods who may never recover to become normal dogs. That doesn’t happen with training games. The “worst” consequences for the dog is not getting a treat. And another opportunity to try.

You also don’t have to worry about getting things right every time. Just like our dogs, we have another chance to play and try again.

This week we’re playing a new game with our dogs. We’ve seen videos of dogs riding skateboards and thought it looked pretty fun. So we got our dog a skateboard!

See what they think

Whenever we introduce a new training tool (toy!) to our dogs, we take the first session or two to see what they think of it. If it’s something that’s familiar, the introduction doesn’t take long and we can start a new game behavior quickly. If it’s something as alien as a skateboard, we want to see how the dogs react before we formulate a game strategy. That’s exactly how we start even the very first dog training game, “Boxey.”

Each of Fran’s dogs reacted a bit differently:

Booker's second time on the skateboard. Dogs don't judge - he was all about the fun.

Booker (8-year-old Boston Terrier) dashed right over, put multiple paws on the deck, and wasn’t fazed in the least when it started moving. His game will emphasize putting three paws on, then moving it with purpose.

Tango (12-year-old Brussels Griffon) doesn’t see too well at this point, but is so familiar with training games that when he noticed something new in the space, he went over to it. He sniffed it, got paws up on it, and was clearly willing to play.

Simon (2-year-old Boston) ran over to the skateboard and was in constant motion. “You want this?” “How about this?” “I’ll try this!” “One paw good?” “Three paws?” “What about shoving it across the room?” 

Clearly none of them was afraid of the item itself, or its movement. And we’ll play games tailored to each dog. Booker’s game will work on refining technique. Tango will probably learn “go for a ride” with us moving the board. Simon’s game will focus on focus. That pup is smart as can be, but still has the attention span of a puppy Boston.

Dogs just want to have fun

We didn’t worry about doing something “wrong.” The dogs got to “meet” their new toy, and we were able to get an idea of each dog’s training game. The next time the dogs see the skateboard, we’ll have a plan for each one – what action will get a “click and treat,” and which one will be ignored. 

The plan doesn’t always happen. Because they’re dogs. That’s okay. We don’t have to be perfect, and neither do the dogs.

You don’t have to worry about getting things “wrong” in a dog training game. Dogs trained with positive reinforcement games will keep trying, keep exploring. Rewards are great, but most dogs adore playing the game. Most will keep trying, just because playing with you is fun.

And if you click at the wrong time? Just give your dog the cookie and try again. Nobody’s perfect and your dog will forgive you. Your mistake may confuse your dog for a minute, but that’s okay. Nobody got hurt. Nobody saw. Dogs are adaptable. Dogs don’t judge. And your dog loves playing with you.